For Black Women
For Grown Women
Ever felt uncertain or misunderstood in your relationship? You give your time, your energy, your heart—yet still end up feeling unseen, unappreciated, or emotionally exhausted.
You're not imagining it.
You're not too much.
And you are definitely not alone.
Life already asks Black women to carry so much — the last thing you need is for your relationship to add even more weight.
Whether single or married, relationship challenges can be tough for any woman, in any stage of love. But as Black women, your challenges in love are different:
🖤The Strong Black Woman expectation that says you’re not allowed to break
💔 A dating pool you didn’t choose — one that often feels limited and full of obstacles
⚖️ The pressure to “hold a man down” even when it’s draining you
👁️Harmful stereotypes that distort how you’re seen — and how you start to see yourself

YES! Your challenges are different — And so is the answer!
Hi, I'm Alvis O. - Black Women's Secret Go-To Relationship Coach
I help Black women gain clarity, confidence, and control in their love lives — so they can experience the (R.E.A.L.) Respect,
Empowerment, and
Authentic
Love
They truly deserve.
Eliminate the Cs — complaining, crying, criticism — and embrace competent coaching for clarity, confidence, and love that lasts.
Book Free 1:1 Session
Transform Your Relationship Without the Man's Help
As creator of the R.E.A.L. Love Formula™, I guide you step-by-step through a proven 3-Step process that works without needing his awareness, cooperation, or help — and in most cases, it works better that way.
My approach is designed specifically for Black women, though it has transformed the love lives of women from all backgrounds who were ready to love smarter, not harder.
Discover Your Relationship Love-Type™
Your unique Love-Type shapes how you give and receive love — and it’s the hidden key to why relationships either thrive or leave you drained.
Think of it like a crystal ball — your Relationship Love Type reveals the patterns behind your connection struggles and shines a light on the clear, step-by-step path forward.
When you uncover your Love-Type, you’ll finally see why your past experiences happened the way they did — and how to unlock a strategy designed for YOU — whether you’re ready now or preparing for the love you want.
Begin your journey to the love, respect, and commitment you’ve always deserved.
The R.E.A.L. Love Formula™
1
Respect
Establish healthy boundaries and confidently command the respect you want and deserve. Master the technique to state your needs clearly—and finally stop being ignored.
2
Empowerment
Maintain or reclaim your power in your relationship. Take your next powerful step and experience the positive impact unfold immediately.
3
Authentic Love
Experience love that honors your true self and empowers you both. Build a relationship where you’re fully seen, deeply respected, and loved in ways that uplift and inspire lasting joy.
What You'll Achieve
End Emotional Confusion Now
Stop second-guessing yourself and gain clear confidence in how to get the love and respect you deserve. Learn to trust your instincts and spot exactly when something isn’t serving your highest good.
Communicate With Confidence
Using a proven method to express your needs with calm and clarity. Navigate difficult conversations effortlessly—without triggering conflict—and build stronger, more loving connections immediately.
Shift Your Relationship Dynamic
Create positive, lasting change with a grounded emotional strategy. Say goodbye to guesswork and stressful conflict—embrace calm, confident connection that thrives.
The Transformation Process
1. Relationship Clarity
Achieve clear understanding of your past and current relationship patterns and why you're experiencing your current results. Identify what's working, what isn't, and why.
2. Unlock Your Love-Type
Discover how your unique Relationship Love-Type™ is guaranteed to shape your relationship success. Learn to harness its strengths and navigate its challenges with clarity.
3. Discover Five Key Love Insights
Uncover five transformative perspectives you won’t find on Google—simplifying your approach to love and enhancing your ability to nurture lasting respect in your relationship.
4. Your Personal Formula
From confusion to clarity— R.E.A.L. Love makes your path consistent, clear, and empowering.
5. Take The Three Steps
Step 1: Establish Your Unshakable Foundation.
Step 2: Laser-Focus Your Attention — Even When His Words Are Unclear. Step 3: Give and Receive Love that INCREASES HIS LOVE and Strengthens You Both.
6. Fast, Simple and Empowering
A formula you can start using in five seconds or less to create the love story you want and deserve.
Real Women, Real Results
"He formally asked me to be his woman. I have never had that happen before. Following your advice works. I am experiencing it, and I am grateful."
— Nicole P., Nashville, TN
"Understanding my Relationship Love-Type transformed my marriage—more laughter, love, and respect now fill our home."
— Carmen, Dallas TX
"I know what I am doing. I get it. How I love and influence this relationship is very clear to me now. Thank You."
— Lisa J., Chicago, IL
What Sets My Approach Apart
Specifically Designed for Black Women
Unlike generic relationship advice, my approach is an evidence-based, proven, and repeatable process designed to ensure success—while addressing the unique experiences, challenges, and strengths that Black women face in love and relationships.
Extending from my pre-internet #4 Best-Selling book from the 1990s, “The Cold Reality: How to Get and Keep a Black Man in a Relationship,” which helped thousands of women nationwide, this updated approach continues that legacy with modern insights and practical, real-time solutions for today’s world.
Culturally Informed Strategies
I understand the cultural nuances that impact your love life and provide solutions that respect and leverage your unique experiences as a Black woman.
Proven Results Without Traditional Confrontation
Transform your relationship without getting pulled into conflict or emotional chaos. My approach shifts the dynamic — calmly, confidently, and in your favor.
Long-Lasting Skills
Develop a relationship tool you can use for life—not just quick fixes that fade with time. You can maintain and manage love for the long term.
Ready to Transform Your Love Life?
Stop overgiving. Stop second-guessing. Start attracting—and maintaining—the love, respect, and emotional connection you truly deserve.

Book your FREE 1:1 Session—spots are limited! End your relationship challenges once and forever and finally get the love and respect you deserve. Reserve your spot now—don’t miss out!